I love Twitter. Yesterday as I perusing my feed I noticed that fellow blogger buddies Jenn of Dear Heart and Nikki Rappaport of Cupcakes for Breakfast were tweeting about the hashtag #thingsimafraidtotellyou. After clicking through on a number of the posts folks were talking about I learned about this, sometimes heart wrenching, movement.
Basically, it was born of style and design bloggers saying, “Hey! We like to keep it all positive and pretty on our blogs and social media, but life isn’t always positive and pretty…and it’s okay.” And so, they began sharing things that they might have been afraid to share in the past. Deep secrets, things they thought they’d be judged for, things they only tell their closest friends…and things that are just silly!
I appreciate raw honesty. Because if you’re thinking it, there’s probably someone else in the world thinking it too. Also, I’ve always been that person in the room that says what everyone else is thinking but been too afraid to say.
I think it’s important to note here that I’m not doing this for sympathy, affirmation or some kind of narcissistic drive for compliments. The idea is more that – in this idyllic world, where everything is Instagram’d, organic, local and all that hoo-hah, things aren’t perfect and it’s okay. But more importantly, you are definitely not the only one noticing that things are less than perfect.
A quick story to exemplify what I’m getting at. I was recently at a food event with one of my favorite food bloggers. We were chatting about how busy we’d been recently – between life and work and trying to work out and get some of that coveted quiet time, cooking beautiful meals isn’t always a priority. She commented on her favorite cereal, and how sometimes that’s what’s for dinner and it’s exactly what she needs. I retorted, “You should post that on your blog! I wonder what your readers would think!” The truth is, you’ll never see a post about the nights food bloggers eat ice cream, cheese and crackers or a huge bowl of cereal. Because that’s not what a food blog is. But you know what a huge bowl of cereal for dinner is? Life.
So, in the spirit of honesty, and hoping other food bloggers might follow suit, here is my list of Things I’m Afraid To Tell You:
Sometimes, I buy produce and never use it. Yeah, sometimes that farmers market bounty sits in the fridge with the best of intentions but never turns into anything. Usually because I end up eating out or going to happy hour and my plans to cook are squashed. Shoot me.
Many nights, if dinner isn’t physically out – it’s cheese/crackers/wine or delivery from Seamless. And for the nights I make it home at a decent hour, especially nights after Wednesday and before Sunday, I am sometimes so damn tired I can’t even think about cooking.
I love exploring food, but I have a tenuous relationship with my body. I will never not enjoy eating. Food tastes too good, of course. But I’ve had an up and down struggle with my weight and how I feel about myself since high school. Finding a balance can be difficult at times!
I frequently lose and regain my passion for cooking. Like most things in life, there’s an ebb and flow. I’m actually grateful for this, because each time I regain the passion it’s like a brand new high. (Note: I, clearly, never lose my passion for eating!)
I’m a chronic overachiever and now that I’ve been doing it for 30 years I’m starting to realize this is no way to live. There’s a fine line between always wanting to do your best and never quite being happy with what you’ve done. Sometimes, most of the time, my over achieving results in the latter, always looking to the next accomplishment or not taking time to savor what I just achieved. Lately I have to keep asking myself, “To what end am I doing this?” Which then makes me ask, “Is that even the end I want? Is that really a priority right now?”
I’m a little bit uncomfortable in life right now. See: prior point. But being uncomfortable is cyclical, and usually a sign of growth. Just like the achy growing pains I’d get when I was little. (Right?)
I feel mega guilt about not posting here (or the other blogs I write for) as much as I want to. I have so many ideas for great blog posts, but there’s either not much time to write them or in the time I do have, I prioritize other things like, myself or friends.
I have serious blogger envy at times. This was a pretty common theme among some of the other TIATTY posts. I, too, envy others’ beautiful site designs, time to write more frequent posts and (this is the kicker) those who are financially supported by a significant other and can make this their full-time gig, or at least give it a serious go without financial concerns. I’d like to note that I regularly check myself and remember to appreciate what I have!
So that right there, was a whole lot of honesty. What are some things you’re afraid to tell people? Consider leaving them in the comments…or if you have a blog, maybe do a post of you own! I have to tell you, it’s scary and cathartic to write it all down.